How to Ask Out a Guy
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"Love - a wildly misunderstood although highly desirable malfunction of the heart which weakens the brain, causes eyes to sparkle, cheeks to glow, blood pressure to rise and the lips to pucker"
-Anonymous
You have had your eyes on this one guy for quite a while, and you can not seem to get him off your mind. Whenever you are around him there is that butterfly feeling in your stomach. You have spoken on occasion, and although you sense he is interested, there has never been the slightest hint of a “let’s get together”. So what do you do?
If you are one who lives by the almighty dating covenant that a girl should never ask a guy out, you may be missing out. When it comes to dating, there are really no set rules. So before you decide to throw in the towel, first put yourself in his shoes.
- Rejection is painful. Even more so when it comes to dating because feelings are on the line. Having to customarily be the aggressor, guys are more likely to have experienced rejection more than their female counterpart. After some time, this takes a toll, making it more difficult for some to make the initial move.
- Most guys view confidence as sexy. Have you ever watched in amazement as a girl, perceived average-looking, turns heads when she walks into a room. Looks have little to do with it. Next time, study her mannerisms and the way she carries herself. When you convey confidence, it shows in everything you say and do, and that is sexy to the opposite sex.
- Guys look for clues that a girl is interested. If you’re not the flirting type, then you may not be sending out the right signals. Flirting does not have to be a major production. It could be as simple as a compliment, look, or touch to let him know that you are interested in more than just a friendship.
With this in mind, before you ask him out, first give him clues that you are interested. If the response is positive, it’s time to turn on your sexy confidence and ask him out. Who knows, by the third date he may write you a love poem; better yet, write him one.
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an interesting perspective on men, from a woman's point of view. indeed, most of us sensitive types don't care for rejection, but we do, as you suggest, love a confident woman.
however, it seems as though "francine" can't buy a date with a co-worker.
Hey Blue Dog, I could date any co-worker because I am Cougar. Check my curves in your glossy laptop screen the next time I flow past your desk. Unless you're not dog enough for this cat. Sorry Vee, but I had to respond :-)
Francine Smith 2 years ago
Vee ( Veronica? ), just beware of the single acting guy.
One lurks in every work place smiling at the young free and single girls. Our's has a real connection with Sandy, and Tammy, and Jamie and especially, super flirt Minnie, who gets to sit on the edge of his desk on dress like a slut Friday.
So dressed like sluts on a Friday, the girls (and sensible designated driver me), huddled round the shots counter at McKinney's, discussing that "koot guy" across the giant barn that we call an open plan office. What does he do? An accountant? A computer guy? An architect? A super hero just paying the rent? What ever, he must be good with his hands, because he's got that out of doors smile. And tanned arms. And drives a pickup with big tyres. And he always works late, the obvious sign of a man with no ties who is saving up for something much better than this b.s. Right?
So in order of public drunkenness, the girls formed a disorderly queue to ask him out. Jamie, (very) average looking (no really, very, very average) but full of sexy (Miller Lite) confidence, staggered off to ask mister company loyalty back to the bar... and after five minutes she staggered back.
Disbelieving, she delivered the damage report. "Married? Four children by IVF? Another on the way? He takes off his wedding ring and puts it in his desk because the ring interferes with his wireless computer mouse? He keeps pictures of his children and, his his wife's gynaecologist on Facebook? And he was just being nice to his female 'co-workers'? Sorry if he led us on? But he thinks I'm koot? And if he was single I would be on his 'list'?"
Poor Jamie, she took the rejection personally, and dated a series of openly married men. Meanwhile, the only poetry 'mister single' received was written on the ladies Bathroom wall, and it rhymed with "bastard".
Have a nice day :-)